DIVORCE-SUCCESS
Chaos to Calm

About Sat Tara


I Know what it Feels Like to Go Through a Divorce

Having been through a difficult divorce myself, back in 1995, I understand how it feels to experience the “avalanche of issues” that often comes with a divorce. My heart ached thinking about what my children were going through. My vision of my future disintegrated before my eyes. The legal system was expensive, scary and unpredictable. My financial future looked uncertain. The process tested me in ever fiber of my being!

I made it through with flying colors. I learned about the legal system and negotiating strategy. My organizational skills helped me handle the voluminous paper work. My spiritual practice helped me use the divorce as a springboard for my own development and fulfillment.

My promise to you is that I will try to give to you the benefit of all my 30+ years of experience in this work.

You may be wondering, “Why anyone would want to work in the divorce arena?” It’s so important because how the divorce goes often affects the rest of your life! Sometimes I feel like a midwife…helping people give birth to the rest of their life. It’s very satisfying to me. In fact, about 95% of my practice involves divorce work in one form or another. It’s my focus, my passion, and continually fascinating, even after all these years.

Your Children are a Top Priority

Throughout my career, my work has centered on helping families provide the best possible environments for their children. I am a licensed psychotherapist with over 30 years’ experience in helping families in crisis, particularly divorce. For the past 20 years, I have performed evaluations for the court systems in Colorado and Illinois regarding parenting time and decision-making. In addition, I have extensive experience in handling hundreds of cases of child abuse and neglect and sexual abuse. I am a former board member of the Boulder Interdisciplinary Committee on Child Custody Issues.

Conflict Resolution Options Might Help You Avoid Court

I will always look for ways to helpful you resolve your situation as peacefully as possible, but without “giving up the farm.” About 8 years ago, I received training in divorce mediation and began mediating. In 2004, I began teaching mediation through the Institute for Advanced Dispute Resolution. In 2002, I received training in Collaborative Family Law and have helped train attorneys in numerous presentations in collaborative divorce for the Boulder County Bar Association. I am currently co-authoring a book on Divorce Mediation. I am interested in interdisciplinary approaches to conflict resolution and have, for example, given presentations in the use of metaphor in mediation and in collaborative divorce, Aikido as a body-based reference for handling high conflict clients, and the use of reflective practice in mediation.

Practical Wisdom

I will always look for practical ways for you to move through your divorce and new life. I am certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a therapy approach that is known for achieving effective results in a short period of time. My book, “Divorce Survival and Recovery” (1995), details 30 simple and easy to use techniques to use during the loss of a relationship. Sometimes, practical wisdom needs to be applied to the financial decisions you will need to make.

My Personal Life

I can provide you with information about how to guide your children through a divorce or remarriage. Here’s why. A few years after my divorce, I did one of the smartest things in my life…. I married my kind, generous-hearted husband. So I have now experienced a difficult marriage (my first) and a happy marriage (now). I have two wonderful children from my first marriage, a daughter in college who is majoring in psychology, and a son in high school whose passion is physical fitness.

On the lighter side…I love hiking in the mountains of Colorado and walking in nature. Even though I grew up in New York City, from the moment I came to the Rocky Mountains, I felt like I was home. I love being among pine trees. I also enjoy hugging babies and animals. For some reason, I am particularly fascinated by pigs. Something about those earnest little eyes and curly tails….


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My Son Doing a Flip
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My Daughter

 Tat-Tara-Kaur Khalsa

Sat Tara

And now…you may be wondering, “WHY does she wear a turban?!”

I have been a practitioner of the Sikh faith since 1972. My turban is an outward, public expression of my deeply held, personal beliefs and goals: As a Sikh, I strive to have all my actions reflect personal and professional integrity. Naturally, I do not believe in converting anyone because Sikhs honor all religions. Religious freedom includes the right not to believe in any religion. I first began meditating in 1967 while studying at Smith College. My daily practice of yoga, meditation and prayer helps me maintain my perspective and inner calm.

Other Interesting Tidbits

In 2005, I founded the Women’s Global Forum, a consortium of over 100 organizations and individuals who work on a global scale to alleviate suffering.

I am a graduate of Smith College where I was a First Group Scholar and on the Dean’s List.

I spent my Junior Year Abroad in Italy and loved the culture, the language and the people. I speak Italian, French, and a little Spanish.


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Testimonials

My biggest fear was that the process was going to be too overwhelming to deal with, and that I wasn’t going to get what I needed. It became clear when we were going through the financials which had to be prepared for the court, that I was in good hands with Sat Tara. I was able to do the most overwhelming aspect of my divorce with her help, because she offered calm, clear, knowledgeable support. I was not alone in a sea of confusion and legalese.

Client

The biggest benefit I got from working with Sat Tara was the clear knowledge that she believed in my ability to make it through that hellish time. And I did.

Client

Working with Sat Tara was different than other work I’ve done mainly because it was very practical as well as emotional and psychological. A great balance, especially when you’re trying to cope with a divorce. Sat Tara is compassionate and skillful and I’d certainly recommend her to a friend in need.

Client

Sat Tara has been expert in guiding my clients through the divorce process, including the financial and custody mazes. I have always found her material reliable and helpful.

Boulder County Attorney


Sat Tara combines street smarts with humanity. She helped me explore, recognize and identify the important issues, organize and refine their presentation and synthesize them into a coherent whole.

Client

An additional benefit of Sat Tara’s counsel was the venting and diffusing of a lot of non-functional and counterproductive anger….I spoke from truth and honesty.

Client

It has been fabulous to have Sat Tara to bounce things off of, express my feelings to and to get honest feedback from.

Client

You also helped me learn to love myself again….I’ve forgiven myself. I am such a better person and a better mother now.

Client

You saved my life! You brought me out of the darkness into the light.

Client

Coming out of this, I feel so empowered and in control of my own life. You helped lay the stepping stones to get me to such a point. I will never hesitate to recommend you to others I meet who find themselves in need of sound advice and guidance. Thank you, Sat Tara, for everything.

Client

Thank you for your wonderful support and guidance through my divorce process. A year ago I was asking myself, "How does a person even start to get divorced?" and was trying to find answers in Divorce for Dummies! But nothing provides assistance better than a well-informed, supportive, understanding, highly trained, experienced, level-headed mentor which is exactly what I found in you

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