Essential Information
Introduction:
Welcome to the Essential Information page. There is a lot of information here, so just start out by choosing the article that looks interesting or relevant for you. If you find an article you like, you may download it or send it to a friend in need. Happy reading! Remember, I am not an attorney and nothing on this site should be construed as legal advice. If you would like to speak with me directly, I’m at 303-530-7080.
Get Educated About Your Choices in Divorce
Read about the pros and cons of the various pathways through divorce. See how this applies to your unique situation. This is a good place to start.
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Your Child’s Reaction to Divorce
It’s helpful to apply Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’ five stages of grief to your child’s reaction to the divorce.
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Are You in a Pre-Divorce Holding Pattern?
This article explains in depth how to prepare for a divorce in advance in these areas: personal, parenting, financial, interpersonal, organizational, career, housing and legal.
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Divorce in These Tough Economic Times
These are hard economic times that include ballooning debt, layoffs, struggling businesses, diminished home values, and rising medical and college costs. Many people wonder if they can “afford” a divorce.
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Why Do Couples Fight?
I have heard people say that it is “normal” and “healthy” for couples to fight. Is it possible to not fight and not stuff feelings? Why do couples fight? What can be done about it?
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Maintenance
Unlike child support, there is no statutory formula for maintenance. In some cases the total amount of maintenance paid over the years can be hundreds of thousands of dollars. Make sure you understand this important topic.
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How To Tell Your Children About the Divorce
The moment you tell your children about the divorce will be indelibly etched in their hearts and minds. Here is some guidance about how to do it skillfully.
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How To Choose an Attorney for Your Divorce
Choosing an attorney, if you need one, is a crucial and important step. This article will give you specific tips on how to make the right choice.
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Useful Websites for Your Divorce
You can find several useful websites here.
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Emotional Intimacy
You were born knowing how to be emotionally intimate. So the journey to intimacy involves a reconnection with our natural innocence protected by our judgment, honed by experience.
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What You Should Know About Mediation Before You Begin Your Divorce
Is mediation right for your case? What you need to know about mediation before you begin.
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How People Avoid Conflict in Divorce
A fascinating look at various styles of avoiding conflict.
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Are You Dealing with a Narcissist in Your Divorce?
Some people have found this to be a real eye-opener!
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Child Support 101 in Your Divorce
It’s easier than you think to calculate child support.
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Relationship Readiness Review after Divorce
Try this quiz to explore your readiness for a relationship and to identify areas for further exploration.
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Parenting Style Quiz During Divorce
Take this fun, interesting quiz to assess your parenting style, that of the other parent, and think about how your styles complement or clash.
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Why Your Ex Doesn’t Pay Child Support after Divorce
A fascinating look at why people don’t pay child support.
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Is Collaborative Divorce Right for You?
This article clearly explains the personal characteristics that enable you to use this process and avoid going to Court.
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Alcoholism and Divorce
This is an excellent article on the subject.
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Need Some Inspiration During Your Divorce?
A great collection of quotes to cheer you on, lift your spirits and remind you of your innate wisdom.
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A Spiritual Approach to Divorce
Don Ruiz explains four spiritual agreements that come from the ancient Toltecs in the context of spiritual principles to apply to living your life. Wouldn’t it be interesting to see how this applies to your divorce?
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The Problems in the Divorce are All Your Fault….Or Not
Should you take it personally? How much responsibility should you take? Is it all your fault? Is it all your spouse’s fault? Guilt…blame…projection….defensiveness…how you deal with these have a profound effect on your divorce recovery and personal growth.
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Future Articles Regarding Divorce
Hope for your Children
How to Help Your Children Handle Transitions Between Households
Avoiding Huge Financial Mistakes (High Assets, not Bye Assets)
How Hard Should You Avoid Going to Court?
Self-Counseling for Peace and Effectiveness
Financial Facts – Fascinating and Otherwise
Resources for Reconciliation
Navigating Blended Families
Parental Alienation Syndrome